Just how often you find yourself turning things down or shying away from doing things out of your comfort zone? How often do you say the word NO? For me, this word crops up for too many time than i would like and even more than the word “yes”.
Even though i don’t struggle with anxiety or panic attack, but i’m an extremely shy person that finds it pretty hard to say yes to trying new things, even if i really want too and know that would enjoy it. A lot of the time find that my mind takes control and make me think that i will be safeier doing the things that are within me comfort zone, things that don’t scare me. But if you think, what kind of life is that going to be? Do i really want to be confined to only doing things with baby steps over and over again? Life is way too short for that. Let’s be honest, do i really want to spend my life turning down things and missing out on loads and load of opportunities just because i’m a little scare? No, and neither do you!
If your reading this, and your whether your a negative or shy person, someone who suffers from panic attacks, depression or anxiety disorder, then I know full well that you want more than anything to be able to say yes to so many more things, but the way your mind work is say that it’s a terrifying thing to do. But really, what is the worst thing that could happen? It’s slim or none, that anything serious like death is going to happen.
There have been so many times, where I have been too shy to take on a passion of mine or to push myself out of my comfort zone a little! But by pushing myself a little out of of my comfort zone cause be to me even more shy? No, but by pushing myself a little more might make me have a little more self-confidence. Why should we miss out on any opportunity to make happy memories that you’ll keep with you forever, just because of this?
One of the main that I have noticed throughout the years, is that shyness takes hold over you without you even realising. You get so used to it, that it becomes your way of living. You could probably say that i’m a little jealous of people that ooze with confidence. I quite often think, “If only I wouldn’t have worry about anything”, but then again don’t have anything to worry about? Are the things that i worry about have any significance? The answer is, probably not.
I do definitely hold myself back from doing so many things, that I feel like won’t 100% enjoy. There aren’t many times were being shy hasn’t stopped me from doing something in my life.
Recently, I’ve had a bit of a wakeup call. I’ve felt myself become more and more consumed by certain aspects of my life, situations, people and most importantly me being shy. Nobody should be living their life this – sometimes it takes either a little or a large slap in your face for you to realise the kind of path you are heading down. Consider this yours.
Over the past few weeks, I feel as though I have turned over a new leaf. I do want to be more positive about things, but by being shy means you are more likely to find the negatives in any situation before thinking about the positives, and this becomes pretty draining. Not only for you but others too.
Over the last few I have started to say YES to things that I wouldn’t normally say yes too. Don’t jump to any conclusions that I say yes to everything, cos lets be realistic here… I don’t! But what I am doing is making a conscious effort to agree to more things.
Since I’ve been saying yes to a lot more things, I feel so much better. It has improved myself confidence massively, and it has made me want to go out and do more things. It’s also made me feel a lot more positive, and with positivity, comes happiness.
Now, after reading this blog post, there are a few things I want you to do:
♥ Say YES to something you wouldn’t normally say yes to, and tell me in the comments below, as what it was.
♥ Watch the film “Yes Man”.
♥ Put your favourite song on and dance around to it (not for any reason other than I’m sure it will make you feel at least 10x better than you did before reading this).
♥ Remember that you are not the only one feeling this way and that only you can change the outlook you have on life.