For years, I have always had issues with myself-confidence – especially with how i think other people think about me.
I’ve tired to tell myself don’t be bothered about what other’s may think, but can find that to be really hard. I’ve somehow got this image of what a perfect life should look like. I.e. nice house, expensive car and have nice holidays. But can that really make you happy. The answer is… probably not! What i find that makes me truly happy, is to spend as much time as i possibly can with family and friends.
Wear Comfortable Outfits
Did you know, the clothes you wear can have an effect on your confidence. It doesn’t matter whether your wearing a fashionable outfit or just really comfy pair of jeans, but what does matter is how you feel when your wearing them! Because if your feeling confident and good about yourself, then that is great and there is no need to worry yourself about how others may or may not being thinking about you.
Face Your Fears Head On
When i was growing up, every time i felt unhappy or fearful of something, i always had the urge to run away from it. Unfortunately, that doesn’t always resolve the situation. The most effective way, was to face my fears head on, i know this can be be really hard and uncomfortable at first – but believe me, it will get a lot easier and less uncomfortable. Please, don’t ever stop yourself from doing something that you love or really want to achieve, just because you are fearful of failing. Failing at something isn’t the end of the world, but it’s what you do after is what counts. Make sure to never give up on your dreams and if it doesn’t work out the first time, then just try it again and again.
Stay Away From Negativity
Throughout our life’s, friends and family play a huge part in how we do things. Therefore, if you start to surround yourself with people that will only have a negative influence on you, then over a period of time this could end up having a negative effect on the way you think and feel about yourself – especially if you feel constantly discouraged. Staying away from negativity can be quite hard, especially if it’s coming from a close family member and if that’s the case then try not to care about what they think – it may not be as easy as it sounds, but it will definitely have a positive impact on how you think and see yourself.
Believe In Yourself
If you already believe in yourself, then you are most definitely half way there! Once you have faith within yourself and your ability, you will then find that others will start to believe in you too. Like i said before, failing at something doesn’t matter. Failing can actually make you stop and think ‘Is this actually what i want to do!’. And if you end up finding out you really wanted it, then you can try harder, next time.
Plan And Be Prepared
Preparing and planning is a great place to start but isn’t always possible. Let’s say, if you have an upcoming deadline for an assignment, then planning and preparation can have a positive effect on the outcome. While i was studying at uni, before i would start any assignments, i would first sit down and create a table including all of my assignments and deadlines. Once i had finished each of my assignments i would allocate colours. [E.g. Red: assignment not started, Orange: Halfway done, Green: Completed]. I found that when i prepared for something, i always had a boost in self-confidence and didn’t tend to freak out last minute!
So there you have it. 5 steps that i follow on a daily basis, which helps to boost my self-confidence. If you have anything else to add that has worked for you and which hasn’t been mentioned in this post, then i would love to know.