I hate any sort of confrontation, but don’t let that fall you – I’ve never allowed that to stop me from standing up for myself when I’ve been pushed to my limit. It takes quite a lot for me to stand up for myself but when I’ve reached my limit of bull-sh*t, nothing holds me back from sticking up for myself and showing others that I won’t let anyone walk all over me. I dislike it when people are being treated poorly or spoken to with disrespect and not having the courage to stand up for themselves and say something back. This is probably where my empathy comes in. When I often see someone I know being treated disrespectfully and won’t say anything, I often find myself stepping in when I feed the need to. Nobody should be taking advantage of….not on my watch!
It’s important to stand up for yourself and to point your point across, but that doesn’t mean you need to fight, be rude or be disrespectful toward others.
SET CLEAR BOUNDARIES
It’s important to remember that standing up for yourself doesn’t mean you have to be aggressive or confrontational, but setting clear boundaries with people can be more effective. This has been something I have been implementing throughout my early twenties. Sometimes it can be hard to set them with loved ones, but ultimately it’s what has to be done to improve how we feel ourselves.
BECOMING A STRONGER PERSON
By successfully battling my corner and letting others be aware of my feelings, I always come away from a situation feeling so much stronger. Being met with barriers can first be initiating – putting you into a ‘fight or flight’ mode – but this is a good time to help you grow as a person and become stronger. It might be easier to just run away from a bad or uncomfortable situation, it won’t make you feel stronger or more confident instead it will be you feel like you’ve failed at life. You need to force yourself into a fight mode in difficult situations – metaphorically of course!
You may find that standing up for yourself might take days, weeks, months or even years to unlearn old behaviours and it also takes time to practice. But you can and will there!
YOU STAND UP FOR YOURSELF? WHAT SORTS OF THINGS DO YOUR STRUGGLE WITH, WHEN IT COMES TO SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH OTHER? LET ME KNOW IN THE COMMENT.