I really can’t believe that it’s taken me 27 years to love myself, but it has and here i am.
As one on the new year goals, i’m embarking on new lifesyle journey. Learning to love and respect my soul, mind and body. I know we are only 6 days into 2022, but everyday so far i am learning something new about myself – who i am and who i am becoming. So many people don’t love themselves way in their 40’s and 50’s. Society plays such a huge part in this – unreal beauty standards and expectations with how you should look and feel as a person.
The sad thing is, is that it’s taken me 27 years to love myself as both society and social media has told me that i shouldn’t, but in reality i should love my stretch marks, my scars, my fat rolls, my lumps and bumps. All the things that aren’t deemed ‘as beautiful’ by the media. But here i am loving every inch of me – inside and outside. This is such as big achievements.
LOOKING AFTER MY BODY
The main ways i’ve learnt to love myself is by taking care of my body – eating right and exercising regularly. The reason why i’m embarking on this lifestyle journey, is mainly because i was so fed up on feeling so stuck my ways and low. If don”t start doing something about it now, i don’t know what would happen = to downfall in my mental health. Something really had to change.
During the pandemic, i really wished i had start this whole lifestyle journey sooner.
ACCEPTING MY FLAWS AND THEN WORKING ON THEM
We all have flaws, the is part of life – but what do we do with our flaws? Do we let them fester inside and get work ourselves up or do we work on them? For me personal, i knew i wanted to work on them. In the very short time of me finding myself, i have realised that there are good qualities in me and also a few not so good ones. These flaws don’t have to be on the outside. It doesn’t have to be about my appearance. It’s about who i am as a person.
My main flaw that i’ve been working is to learn to be less impatient with people – especially with people that i’m close too. Think before i speak. Showing my love and kindness to other a lot more often – practicising random acts of kindess to others regularly. Having flaws is normal and we should embrace them. Some of them will be staying and won’t be changing- I’m learning how to love my flaws, but the negative ones hopefully won’t be around for too much longer.
STOP COMPARING MYSELF TO OTHERS
One of the main things as to why it’s taken me a little over 27 years to start loving myself, is that i find myself constantly comparing my life to other people’s life – social media doesn’t help. It really is a blessing and a curse. I sometime forget that what i see on social media isn’t alway reality of someone everyday life. It’s most away their best version.
It has taken me years to switch my mind set- it doesn’t just happen overnight. Especially if it’s programmed in your mind for years. But, taking the first steps to learn not to compare myself to other is a great start. Moving in th right direction.